There has been a lot of press lately about powerful women in the world. Of course Oprah is awesome and a pillar of light in a world of trying to reach out of the darkness. I have also been following Sheryl Sandberg and her new montra of "leaning in" definitly is a voice of encouragement for women. But I find the most inspiration came from People magazine naming Gwyneth Paltrow the most beautiful women in the world. At first I didn't think much about it, I didn't buy the magazine but I thought it was an interesting choice. But after reading online the reasons for their decision and understanding the life choice and career path Gwyneth has chosen, I couldn't agree more. Since having children Gwyneth has chosen not to be the lead in any movie. She selects one supporting role with a lot of character per year and is content with that. I realize she has sure turned her self into a power house brand that probably takes up just as much of her time as an Oscar winning acting role would do. But what I find wonderful about her being picked is that, in my opinion, she has embrassed mother hood and turned her back on the traditional hollywood role. She is an example of a woman who has put her title of mother and wife above that of actress. I realize she is in no way a traditional mother like I am ( it is no surprise that I have no presonal trainer, house cleaner or nanny) but she has found fulfilment and joy by being the center of her family.
One of my best friends use to say that being in your 30's is really hard. It took me a while to start to agree with her. Being a mom in your 30's is a lot like Ground Hogs day, 85% of your life is routine established to make other peoples life function. A number of years ago, I knew I was truly an adult when I realized the whole house gets up in the morning because I get up first and make the day happen, the bucks stops and starts here and absolutely no one can do my job as a mother but me. Which is why we mother's have to pull together and cheer each other. We understand each other challenges and heartaches and our successes because we are all living them at the same time. I was talking with my husband yesterday about how important the role of my girl friends are to me during this phase in my life. I was telling him, "I didn't NEED them when I was in my 20's, now I NEED them like I need water and food." I need my husband, of course, but this is about motherhood and pulling together to celebrate the success that aren't glamorous and wont end up on magazine covers. The successes of raising children and shaping the future generally aren't headline news. Which is why we mother's need each other to celebrate the milestones and cry at the heartbreaks. We are the stars of the family but no one is going to give us an Oscar or give us an award for it. This week is leading up to Mother's day and I want to send out cheers to every mother who is the heart of the family. You are irreplaceable! You are the unsung hero! You are my friend because we are traveling these years together, understanding what it means to have a rough night and also the triumph when our kids succeed. So I tell all you mother's GREAT JOB, you are AMAZING! Celebrate Mother's day everyday by cheering on the mother's around you. It doesn't take flowers or candy for us to feel good, it only takes kind words and encouragement and those things cost nothing and are an infinite resource. Happy Mother's day, the world needs you!